Helping Loved Ones Understand Your Mental Health Journey

Sharing your mental health struggles with loved ones is a tricky thing, isn’t it? You’re grappling with these intense feelings, and at the same time, you’re trying to figure out how to put them into words. It’s like you’re walking a tightrope, balancing your need to express yourself with their ability to understand and empathize. But trust me, my friend, it’s okay. This conversation might feel tough to navigate, but I assure you, finding your voice—your true, authentic voice—and sharing your struggle can lead to greater understanding, support, and strength. Let’s discuss how to traverse this journey together, shall we? 

Finding the courage to share your mental health story with family and friends is about vulnerability. It’s akin to shedding your old skin and revealing a part of you that feels raw and tender. But know this: vulnerability is indeed beautiful and brave, without question. 

Defining the Problem: Identifying Your Feelings and Knowing What You Want to Share 

• Understanding your feelings: When it comes to expressing your mental health struggles, you must first understand these feelings within yourself. It’s okay if this takes time. There’s no hurry.

• Deciding what to share: Once you’re clear on what you’re feeling, it’s time to decide what to share. Think about the insights you want them to understand and the support you seek.

Choosing the Right Time and Place 

Look, it’s crucial that you pick the appropriate time and place for this conversation. You’ll want an atmosphere that’s calm and private, where you won’t be interrupted. Because, let’s be honest, it can be tough to open up about mental health, and any interruptions could derail your courage or disrupt the sincerity of the moment. And timing? It’s just as important. Aim for a time when the other person can give you their full attention so they’re truly present to listen and absorb what you’re saying. 

Framing the Conversation Just Right 

Now, how do you start such a conversation? It might seem like a daunting question, but think of it just the same as if you’re sharing any other part of yourself. Maybe begin with, “I’ve been going through something lately and I really need someone to listen. Can I share this with you?” This sets the stage for a sincere conversation and signals your listener to lend you their emotional support. 

Expressing Your Feelings Clearly 

When you’re ready to share, make sure to articulate your feelings clearly. It’s alright if you cannot find the perfect words. Remember, you’re not expected to share a textbook definition of your mental health struggle. Focus on communicating how it affects you personally. You might say things like, “I’m feeling really low most of the time and it’s hard for me to find motivation,” or “I constantly feel anxious and it’s starting to affect my everyday life.” 

Communicating Your Needs 

An essential part of this conversation is sharing not just your struggles but also your needs. What is it you are seeking from them? It might be understanding, patience, or perhaps just a listening ear. Maybe, you need them to accompany you to your therapy sessions or help remind you about medication timings. Honestly convey your needs because sometimes our loved ones want to help, but they just don’t know how. 

Being Prepared for Their Response 

Lastly, be prepared for their reaction. You see, just as it’s hard for you to share your struggles, it might be hard for them to fully comprehend them. There might be questions, confusion, or even disbelief, but don’t let this deter your efforts. Remember, it’s not because they don’t care, but perhaps they lack the knowledge or tools to react appropriately at first. Patiently help them understand and learn. After all, communication is a two-way street.

Navigating Difficult Emotions Together 

I can’t stress this enough – discussing mental health can bring up a whirlwind of emotions, for both you and those you’re talking to. It’s important for both parties to stay calm and patient. Remember, it’s okay to express discomfort or even to even shed a few tears; after all, these discussions are seldom easy. Just take a deep breath and let your feelings flow. 

Practicing Empathetic Listening 

Encourage your loved ones to practice empathetic listening. Empathetic listening is when you listen to understand, not just to respond. It’s about validating the other’s feelings and offering comfort, without rushing to offer advice or solutions. If they practice this, it can make a world of difference to the conversation. 

Making Space for Regular Check-ins 

Once you’ve breached the subject, keep the dialogue going. Consider scheduling regular check-ins with your loved ones to discuss your struggles and progress. Regular communication bolsters emotional bonds. Plus, it makes it easier for both parties to navigate the complexities of mental health together. It’s one day at a time, remember? 

Reiterating Your Love & Appreciation 

Regardless of how the conversation goes, don’t forget to regularly reassure your loved ones of your affection for them. Keep reminding them, and yourself, that you are not your illness, and their love and support mean the world to you. Your mental health may be a part of your life, but it’s not the essence of who you are. You’re you – wonderful, strong, and deserving of love and understanding.